Recently, I attended the 50th birthday party of a good friend and amid the celebrations, the conversations took an unexpected detour.
Naturally at these events, there’s talk of what people are up to, how their children are and what commonly held friends are up to.
However, the conversation quickly turned to parents and their various ailments. Given most of the crowd were Gen-Xers, their parents were well into their 70s and 80s.
One had a mother who’s had multiple, unsuccessful back surgeries and must take a barrage of pills to cope with everyday pain. Another complained of how his parents were slowing down markedly though refused to move out of their mammoth house by a waterfront. And I relayed the story of how my father had been diagnosed with dementia just days earlier.
What happened next surprised me. One friend said, “Well, now is the time to get the most out of life because by the time you retire, it’s too late.” Half a dozen others nodded in agreement.
It wasn’t just talk, either. One friend was selling his business and retiring at age 48. A decade ago, he had a serious car accident and since then he’d changed from being extremely ambitious and money focused, to being more interested in experiences, especially overseas holidays. His parents’ slow decline had accelerated this shift.
Another spoke of starting a new business. This guy had been a serial entrepreneur since his teens and reasonably successful at it, though had dreams of creating something bigger. Seeing his parents slow down had made him realise that given he’s in his late 40s, that it might be a case of now or never.
A third friend who loves hiking and the outdoors had booked a holiday to the US to fulfill his goal of hiking in Yellowstone National Park. He’d realized that he might not be able to do it in 10 or 20 years’ time, and certainly not by the time he’d reached his parents’ age.
The common theme for all of them was that seeing their parents’ decline had given them an increased urgency to make the most of their lives before it was too late.
Die with zero?
My surprise with these stories was that they ran counter to many of the traditional narratives that we grew up with. Most of us were told by our parents and in schools that we should work hard, save money, and look forward to financial freedom when we retire.
My friends at this party were saying that type of thinking no longer worked for them. That they were more concerned with living in the now than saving money for the future.
This attitude reminded me of a book that I reviewed in Firstlinks a few years ago called Die with Zero.
The author, Bill Perkins, thinks all of us should aim to die with nothing in our bank accounts because life is about having experiences rather than accumulating money:
“Those are two very different goals. Money is just a means to an end: Having money helps you to achieve the more important goal of enjoying your life. But trying to maximize money actually gets in the way of achieving the more important goal.”
And:
“Why wait until your health and life energy have begun to wane? Rather than just focusing on saving up for a big pot full of money that you will most likely not be able to spend in your lifetime, live your life to the fullest now: Chase memorable life experiences, give money to your kids when they can best use it, donate money to charity while you’re still alive. That’s the way to live life.”
Perkins outlines nine rules for achieving the aim of dying with zero:
- Maximise your positive life experiences
- Start investing in life experiences early
- Aim to die with zero
- Use all available tools to help you die with zero
- Give money to your children or to charity when it has the most impact
- Don’t live your life on autopilot
- Think of your life as distinct seasons
- Know when to stop growing your wealth
- Take your biggest risks when you have nothing to lose
Rules 5 and 6 deserve further explanation.
Rule 5 is especially relevant given debate around the $4.5 trillion intergenerational wealth transfer that’s set to happen in Australia over the next 20 years. Perkins says the peak utility for money – the time when it can bring optimal usefulness or enjoyment – is around 30 years of age. However, the average age for inheriting money is close to 50 in Australia.
On rule 6, Perkins isn’t saying that you should just spend money as soon as possible. Rather, he suggests that there needs to be a better balance beyond just defaulting to saving and investing.
Are attitudes changing more broadly?
Perkins’ book offers a compelling counterpoint to the usual narrative around preserving wealth for future generations.
Conversations at the party left me wondering whether Gen X and younger cohorts are beginning to embrace his ideas about using money to live fully now.
Of course, these are just anecdotal impressions - I don’t have hard data to support a broader shift in mindset.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and any stories that you may have on the topic.
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In my article this week, I explore the growing sense of despair among young people about their future living standards and their increasing frustration with both the government and Baby Boomers. I examine whether this frustration is justified, its implications, and how the younger generation can reclaim some control over their future.
James Gruber
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